365 Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles
Day 30. April 24, 2011
I was at Albertson’s today—checking the bakery department for the perfect cookies. I found my favorites—soft sugar cookies with yellow frosting and sprinkles. These are perfect, I thought to myself.
I headed over to Church’s Fried Chicken. I pulled into the parking lot around 4:45 pm and thought – dear God—clearly I’ve lost my mind.
I stuffed the package of 1 dozen sugar cookies in my very large purse. I walked into Church’s Fried Chicken and I was greeted by none other than Esther!
I smiled at her and said I wasn’t there to order chicken. I pulled the cookies out of my purse and said, “these are for you!”
“For me? Thank you! Did you just get out of work? Are you sure you don’t want chicken? How about just a drink?”
I replied, “no, no. I am stuffed from a big lunch—but thank you. I had to pick up some items from work—and I thought I’d stop by to see you—you mentioned you had to work on Easter Sunday.”
As I was leaving—she said—“wait. I am getting married soon and my friend is throwing a party for me. Will you give me your information? I’d like you to come!”
The Dale Carnegie principle I used today:
From How to Win Friends and Influence People:
Principle 5. Smile.
From How to Stop Worrying and Start Living:
– Create happiness for others.
I made a mental note Esther had to work on Easter Sunday—and I imagined myself in her shoes—wanting to be home with family but having to work instead. What would I like if I were in her shoes? I decided a simple gesture of stopping by with some cookies would be nice.
When you take the time to create happiness for others—you reap the benefits. Your perspective changes. You become more aware of other people instead of spending all your time focusing on yourself and you will discover a deeper level of happiness in your life.