365 Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles
Day 73. Monday, June 6, 2011
I chatted with my friend “Batman” today. I told him that I was frustrated with myself because I got to work so incredibly late today. I explained that although no one at work complains—it still bothers me.
I work 8-10 hours a day and I don’t take lunches. It was just last week that management was thrilled with a marketing campaign I put together.
Batman listened attentively and asked an interesting question. “Do you think it’s society’s pressures that you work certain hours? It sounds like the job you have is flexible enough that it doesn’t matter.”
I can’t explain it—but somehow those words were like a rope to pull me out of my box. I felt better. I place very high standards upon myself—that are not always level headed, reasonable or balanced. Batman reminded me that I put in the same hours—just at a different time than most. No one complains at work—in fact they continue to tell me they are pleased—which is far more than I received a year ago when I was putting in far more time into work and playing far less. Back then a blog was the furthest thing from the Smiling Daffodil’s mind.
The Dale Carnegie principle used in this story is from How to Stop Worrying and Start Living:
Don’t fuss about trifles.
The Dale Carnegie principle my friend Batman used is from How to Win Friends and Influence People:
Principle 4. Become genuinely interested in other people.
Principle 7. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
I am blessed to have a job that is extremely flexible—I earned this privilege because I have put in many hours. There’s no sense in worrying about “being late” when everyone knows I’ll stay until the cows come home, will work weekends, etc.
The lesson I want you to take from this story—sometimes standards you place upon yourself are unreasonable and defy logic. I am well aware it’s difficult to break these patterns of behavior—but do your best and try. Don’t worry so much about trifles—just focus on doing your best.
Also—take “Batman’s” approach in this story to reach out to friends, family, customers and associates. Sometimes all a person needs is a ready and sympathetic ear.
Thank you Batman!
Housekeeping / Notes:
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