365 Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles
Day 109. Wednesday, July 13, 2011
I drove home on Tuesday evening, praying in a very direct way to God.
“Lord. Please fix me. I’m not in a good place.
I feel portly. I’m eating like a horse. I haven’t been to the gym in awhile. My clothes aren’t fitting. And there is chaos at work. I’m doing my best Lord—but things aren’t working. I feel like eating my way into oblivion. I know the answer is the gym. But I won’t go.”
The next morning I checked my Facebook and noticed a wall post. “Smiling Daffodil, I haven’t seen you in awhile at the gym…”
I didn’t expect a quick response from God—well, in this case, one of God’s tools—named Dr. House, my trainer.
I decided to look at the facts:
- I haven’t been going to the gym—so yes, I am out of shape.
- I had been working hard on a fitness program but most likely I have regressed.
- I have also been entertaining quite a bit of sugary foods. And then there are those trips to McDonalds I’ve been blogging about….
I wondered if Dr. House would believe that I had been working out faithfully but then I got distracted with my blog. On the other hand—I’m just giving excuses. That’s probably all he hears as a trainer—excuses. But surely I’m different? My excuse is valid! Ha.
I decided to just accept the inevitable. I told Dr. House that I am fully prepared to fail the fitness test since I haven’t been faithful to the gym.
As is the custom—he looked at me and said—“you’re not going to fail the test. You don’t fail at anything you do.”
Clearly I could not accept this statement—so I insisted, “no, no Doc—this time I really am going to fail.”
Dr. House wasn’t buying it. And I had no idea why. But I appreciated his confidence in me.
I took the fitness test on the treadmill—and not only did I pass—I improved from my last test in March. He also had scientific proof of why I’ve been eating a lot of sugary foods. My body has been craving sugar.
I left the gym feeling 2 feet taller, 10 pounds lighter, with a spring in my step and a big stupid grin on my face.
I bet you’re wondering what Dale Carnegie principles I used in this story?
From How to Stop Worrying and Start Living:
Get all the facts.
It turns out that I was doing so well on my fitness program that taking some time off didn’t cause me to regress back to my fitness level in March. I assumed I was very weak and had no self-control when it comes to sugar—but my system was craving it as a result of the intense workout program I had been on. I assumed I was in poor condition. My trainer said my heart was stronger than it has ever been.
I didn’t have all my facts before today. I just had a jumble of fears and concerns floating in my head that were discouraging me and stunting any chance for progress. And these feelings were seeping into my daily outlook.
When I got all the facts from my trainer—you can imagine my relief!
So remember, don’t jump to conclusions. Getting all the facts is the best way to correct a situation. Once you have the facts, you are able to come up with a sound plan of action. Can you imagine coming up with a plan with no facts? Or with incorrect information? This is not a good practice for home, work or anywhere.
If I had continued with my original intense fitness program—I would not see improvement. Based on my test results my program has to completely change in order to see progress. Now I have a new program and I should see results in a matter of time.
Housekeeping / Notes:
Dr. House—thank you for stepping up to the challenge of pulling me out of my box and setting new goals.
Mustafa—thank you for conspiring with Dr. House for the “intervention.”