365 Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles
Day 110. Thursday, July 14, 2011
Despite getting 4 hours of sleep I woke up chipper.
I wasn’t even stressed with traffic on the way to work. I kept singing my new favorite song for most of the 30 mile drive.
I got to the office and began sifting through my email. My team emailed their completed projects for the week. I reviewed them and they did a great job. Clearly my morning is well on its way to being productive and stress free. What a difference from earlier this week or even last week. Thank God!
Then I encountered an associate about mid-morning. I was chipper and friendly with her but she didn’t respond back in the same fashion. In the past I have let myself be influenced by her. Her mood has influenced my mood. If she’s having a bad day I’m having a bad day. I’d like to say we mirror each other—but only when it comes to being moody.
When I realized nothing I could do would improve the matter with her—I decided it was best to take care of myself. I carried on with my good mood. To strengthen my resolve to remain in a good mood—I thought of upbeat, positive individuals in my life. My gym trainer for instance. My team of co-workers who rarely complain. My best friend here in Dallas. My friends at my favorite coffee shop. These are individuals who are consistently positive and upbeat. These are individuals you want to know.
After reflecting on these individuals I felt better. I then focused on working with enthusiasm. The rest of my day remained productive and positive.
The Dale Carnegie principles I used today are from How to Win Friends and Influence People:
Fill your mind with thoughts of peace, courage, health and hope.
Sometimes there are individuals that are negative influences in your life. It is true we all have a bad day—but some individuals seem to have more than a bad day and they tend to drag you down with them. You don’t have to live like this! You can certainly do your best to lift their spirits but ultimately they have to choose their mood. Don’t let these individuals bring you down.
You need to focus on maintaining your own physical and mental health first. You are worth it! When you take this approach you’ll discover that individuals who are also positive will tend to gravitate toward you. And individuals willing to change will also want to be around you. These individuals will help you grow—as you will help them grow.
The remaining individuals who are negative and are not willing to change will continue as they are. It’s commendable to help them and you can do what you can but never lose sight that you must protect your happiness first.