365 Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles
Day 113. Sunday, July 17, 2011
I made a fatal mistake on Saturday night. I carelessly clicked on a link. I welcomed a virus onto my laptop “Max.” My heart sank. I turned off the computer immediately hoping to avoid serious infection.
All the conversation around me turned into noise—like the sound of the school teacher in the Peanuts cartoon.
I had one concern and nothing else mattered—fixing my infected laptop Max.
I was at my parents’ home at the time. I was ready to go home. I passed on most of the offers for leftover food. (which really indicates my mind was preoccupied!)
I drove home stressed. How will I post my blog? I remembered I have my old laptop that still works. What about photos? I remembered I have an external hard drive with most of my photos. Besides—I can always take photos with my camera and load them onto my old laptop. I was actually able to breath a sigh of relief.
I got home and ran the virus protection software. Then I did something out of character. I decided to accept the inevitable. I’m not the most qualified to fix my computer. I won’t see my techie friend who usually fixes my laptops until Monday. I put the problem in a “day-tight” compartment and went to the gym.
I didn’t spend my time at the gym chewing on my fears of an infected or dying laptop. I didn’t think about the laptop at all. Monday didn’t seem like decades away either. It’s the day after Sunday and it’s around the corner. Besides—this isn’t like the time I forgot my laptop in Michigan and was without my laptop for an entire week. There’s nothing I can do about the laptop until then.
I returned from the gym, wrote my blog on my other laptop—and life is good.
The Dale Carnegie principles I used are from How to Stop Worrying and Start Living:
Cooperate with the inevitable.
Live in “day-tight” compartments.
In all honesty—I have no idea how I’m not worried about my laptop Max. All I can conclude is practicing the Dale Carnegie principles on a consistent basis actually does work—even with the most stubborn individuals like the Smiling Daffodil. One of the unexpected advantages of a “sick” laptop—I was unplugged for the day and focused on a much needed afternoon nap!
The lesson to learn from this story: look at your worries objectively. Don’t let the chaos of your fears and emotions take control. Find a solution and accept that the solution might not happen until “Monday”. In the meantime don’t deny yourself peace of mind. When you do this—you won’t waste valuable energy on things you cannot control. You will be happier, healthier and you might find an opportunity to do something relaxing like take an afternoon nap.
Housekeeping / Notes:
Thank you for reading my blog. Be looking for incremental improvements during the coming weeks.