Guest Blogger Elijah found an opportunity to use a Dale Carnegie principle while at a stop sign

Preface:  Thank you Elijah for sharing this story.  You proved it can just take a moment to use a Dale Carnegie principle but it can have a lasting effect.
The Smiling Daffodil

 A Saturday Morning Drive-by
By Elijah 

I was at the stop sign about to drive out of my neighborhood.  I noticed this girl.  She was in her mid-20s. 

A sad smile

She had slumped shoulders, a pinched face and was smoking a cigarette but not inhaling.

I could tell she was talking to herself.  I stopped and rolled down the window and asked, “excuse me is everything ok?”

She said what I expected.  “Yes, I am fine.”

I said, “Good. Please don’t take this wrong— you’re a good looking kid but you would be much better looking if you straighten your shoulders lose the cigarette and smile.”   

There was this 3 second moment of us looking at each other and she did what I suggested. 

I smiled and said, “See I was right. Have a great day.”

As I drove away I looked back and noticed she was walking more confidently.  As I was running errands later that day I thought to myself—I just threw a pebble in the pond. But I will never know the end of this circle and to tell you the truth—that’s ok with me.

The Dale Carnegie principles Elijah employed are from How to Win Friends and Influence People:
Principle 9. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely. 
Principle 28.  Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
Principle 30.  Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

I admire Elijah’s ability to reach out to complete strangers—unafraid of the consequences.  His approach is respectful, sincere and encouraging to the strangers that receive his help.  This scenario only took a few minutes—but the effects will probably be long lasting.  Remember, sometimes a simple kind word to a friend or stranger is all that a person needs to change his/her outlook.  Take a chance and be that person that throws a pebble in the pond.
– The Smiling Daffodil

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