365 Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles
Day 61. Wednesday, May 25, 2011
I was driving home from work considering my blog options for the evening. I was thinking— no I can’t write about that instance quite the way I want to— I need to keep this blog family friendly. (it was a very frustrating day). I grumble to myself.
The route I drive home is a long street that spans several cities. It has synchronized lights pretty much the entire journey. As I crossed an intersection with a fresh green light, going 45-50 mph—I spotted unusual movement from the left side of the intersection. It couldn’t be, I thought. I verified my green light. I tap slowly on the brakes….then I stomp on the brakes and blared my horn like my life depended on it.
The unusual movement I noticed was a car that turned left on a red light… into my lane. I was certain the accident was unavoidable.
I have no idea how I stopped just short of rear ending the car.
I was so tempted to follow her and tell her exactly what I thought of her. I came very close. I slowed the car down and quickly weighed the options.
I decided not to escalate the moment any more than she had done with her carelessness. I instead focused on the miracle of not rear ending her while going 45-50 mph.
The Dale Carnegie principles I used are from How to Stop Worrying and Start Living:
Count your blessings—not your troubles.
Despite being so shaken and upset by the driver I was very quick to thank God for protecting me. I was lucky to have noticed her. It was a busy intersection. I was lucky there wasn’t a car behind me—because I could have been rear ended in the process of avoiding an accident.
The idiot driver who ran the red light was lucky she didn’t hit traffic that was in front of her.
So remember, as bad as a day may have been at work it could always be worse. So count your blessings and don’t dwell on your troubles. When you take this approach the hassles of the day take on an insignificant role and you are left to focus on the important aspects in your life.