365 Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles
Day 101. Tuesday, July 5, 2011
It was midnight and I was on a stairmaster at the gym. I was wrapping up a workout while reflecting on how great Monday was.
I raced out of the gym and hurried home. I decided to fall on my sword immediately and let the appropriate parties know I messed up.
By the time I launched the campaign it was 12:35 am. Technically— I was 35 minutes late— which isn’t too heinous. Besides Monday was the 4th of July. Most people are far away from being reached by my marketing campaigns.
I tried to console myself with reason but I was so disappointed with myself. In the history of these campaigns I’ve never forgotten to launch one.
I knew in my heart that it wasn’t life and death. It would be ok. The campaign wasn’t date sensitive. I didn’t cause physical or mental harm to anyone. This is a marketing campaign.
I went to bed calm and without worry.
When I woke up I immediately thought of the marketing campaign. I did my best to accept whatever consequences that would come my way. I reminded myself that the affected individuals are reasonable human beings—and again, the delay of the campaign by one day might actually help in the long run.
I got to work and no one complained. In fact, my associate said it was no big deal. It was a non-issue.
The Dale Carnegie principles I used in this scenario are from How to Stop Worrying and Start Living:
Cooperate with the inevitable.
Live in “day-tight compartments.”
How to face trouble:
a. Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen?”
b. Prepare to accept the worst.
c. Try to improve on the worst.
How to Win Friends and Influence People:
Principle 12. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
By day 101 of this blog, I am starting to catch on to the reality that it’s not worth worrying about circumstances I cannot change. When I realized I messed up I decided to grab the bull by the horns—I accepted responsibility. I also considered the matter—and was able to look at the big picture—this matter was a bigger problem in my mind than in reality. Given this conclusion I decided to live in a day-tight compartment and do my best not to give this matter any more worry. I saved myself a lot of grief!
This is why living in day-tight compartment is worth it. You don’t waste valuable time worrying about trivial matters. You can focus on moving forward and growing as a person rather than stunting your growth by fixating on a mistake.