365 Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles
Day 89. Thursday, June 23, 2011
You might remember the Day 81 entry where I sewed the most fabulous pillow because Seth and Stefano gave me the encouragement to try. Well a lot has happened since then….
I am up to 6 finished pillows, 2 pillows-in-progress and a potential wall hanging….This does not include the projects in my mind that are just bursting for the opportunity to come to life….I guess you could say I am the mad scientist of sewing… or at least pillow making. Even the other night I had a dream I sewed myself into a pillow….
My enthusiasm led me to approach my associate Roberta, who was buried with a pile of paperwork this afternoon.
“Excuse me Roberta, before today is over will you show me how to sew this fancy yarn and cording?”
“Oh my! Yes I will! Your grandmother would be so jealous of me, Smiling Daffodil! I’ll be happy to show you.”
So this evening once our regular boring “office” work was complete, Roberta pulled out the special sewing machine foot for sewing yarns and other specialty fibers. Roberta had a very long, stressful day yet she was eager to teach me this new sewing technique.
She shared tips and invited me to use any of her specialty yarns and fibers. (Her willingness to let me use any of her materials always stuns me. She never says you can use this material but not that. Or here, use this cheap, ugly material—the other material is too expensive for you to use.)
She was absolutely enthusiastic and excited to teach me. As I listened to Roberta, I couldn’t help but think of Dale Carnegie’s principles. I didn’t set out to use a principle but somehow I unlocked the magic of a particular principle:
From How to Win Friends and Influence People:
Principle 4. Become genuinely interested in other people.
I had taken the time to become interested in sewing—and what really made the difference is that I involved Roberta in this process. By taking interest and asking Roberta for help, advice and tips—both parties got what they wanted. I wanted to learn some new techniques, feel creative and succeed in my sewing endeavors. She got to share her expertise with me. She got to feel important.
The outcome is greater than meets the eye.
I am happy because I get to create. I am also happy because she sees I am happy. (Actually, the entire building senses my explosion of happiness and benefits from it).
She is happy because she gets to teach an associate—she gets to feel important. She is also happy because she sees me happy. (Actually, the entire building benefits from this).
The bigger picture is a happier work environment, greater productivity and greater profitability.
So remember, although you might be capable of learning something on your own through trial and error—sometimes it serves everyone’s interests if you ask for help from an expert. More often than not—someone is willing to teach you—they derive their feeling of importance by being considered an expert. You get the benefit of learning how to do something the right way. The result is relationship building, discovering new opportunities for making money and more importantly your own happiness.
Housekeeping / Notes:
Don’t forget to read this week’s guest blog post by my buddy Esteban. I think his blog demonstrates the great opportunity parents have to teach their children. Click here to read.