Day 54. If Dale Carnegie was watching “The Smiling Daffodil” tv program from heaven… odds are he’d be smiling.

365 Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles

Day 54.  Wednesday, May 18, 2011
I was working at my desk when suddenly I was startled. 

“Wait a minute,” I thought to myself while smiling mischievously.  “I’ve been living in a “day-tight compartment” and didn’t even realize it?

Let me explain.

Silly little monkey before taking the Dale Carnegie course


Before the Dale Carnegie course, I would carry the weight of the world on my shoulders.  I volunteered to be the sacrificial lamb.  I felt obligated to take this role.  To sacrifice.  To do without.  To exhaust myself.  I took on way more than I was technically required to for my organization each and every day.  I got nothing in return but weariness, grumpiness and whatever other colorful adjective you care to add.

After taking the Dale Carnegie course, I live in “day-tight compartments”. 

Today I was in a meeting where some discoveries were made that certain tasks weren’t complete.  I didn’t do them because I didn’t know I was expected to.  No one asked me to.  No one told me to.  It genuinely NEVER occurred to me that I was to do them.  They were tasks that were far removed from me. 

Understand there is a distinction between being complacent, lazy, silent or an irresponsible employee and living in day-tight compartments.  To not speak up about a concern is irresponsible—it cannot be considered living in a day-tight compartment.  The circumstance today was something different. 

Before the Dale Carnegie course I behaved as if I was the owner—worrying about everything, working weekends, working late nights….working, working, working, worrying, worrying, worrying.  If there were any tasks that weren’t assigned to me that were just collecting dust—I would take them on without being asked. 

But I realized I don’t have to take that approach.  It is not my obligation or responsibility to live, breath and exist for the sole benefit of an organization’s success—at the cost of my happiness, my peace, my life, my being.

Still a strong force in nature but perhaps a litte more tame.


So the mischievous smile was my amusement of realizing my success with the concept of ‘stop worrying and start living’.  Work is a necessity.  I do it with enthusiasm.  I put my heart into it.  I do my best.  But I leave the responsibility of running a business, of management, of personnel issues, of blah, blah, blah, to their respective owners. 

People, challenges, chaos and countless good and bad circumstances in a day become an opportunity for me to apply a Dale Carnegie principle.   I look for opportunities to learn and to share what I have learned. 

I let trifles crumble into oblivion without taking a toll on me.  I sleep well.  I go to the gym for fun.  I drink Starbucks Java Chip Frappuccinos because I love them—not because I need them to temper my mood.  I create happiness for others.  I have ridiculous fun with my blog. 

I have discovered happiness, peace, life, my being. 

While I wasn’t as specific as I would have liked to be in this blog—I hope that the message is still clear.  Living in day-tight compartments leads to a much happier path for your life.  You don’t have to get irritated, frustrated, concerned about all the situations—large and small that come your way—especially when it is not your responsibility to solve all of humanity’s problems or worry about trifles.  It doesn’t mean you don’t care about humanity, the world or the organization—it just means you recognize the value of protecting your own health, happiness and peace.


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