365 Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles
Day 116. Wednesday, July 20, 2011
This morning I reviewed work that my team put together. I was giddy with excitement. They did a wonderful job. What amazed me most was their ability to make my humble product photos look professional. My original photos were HORRIBLE. I marvel at how they fix my lighting problems with Photoshop.
I was so thrilled I had to show Harper, an associate from another department.
Smiling Daffodil: “Oh my gosh—look at the work that Bellmont did for us! I wish I had his skill Harper!”
Harper: “I could show you how he did it all day long. You’d realize it’s not a magic wand he has—it’s skill.”
Smiling Daffodil: “Wow! Will you really show me Harper? I would love to learn how Bellmont and his team crops and cleans the photos. But don’t worry, I’ll just take a half day—not a whole day!”
Harper: “Smiling Daffodil—people study years to learn what I do. It’s not something you learn right away.”
Smiling Daffodil: “Oh.”
I realized I stepped right into it. I didn’t mean to. I sincerely thought my associate would show me a few tips and tricks on how to use software that I’m not very familiar with. I don’t expect to become an expert in graphic design—but I like to learn new things—especially from people that have the experience. Even the simplest of functions in the software is amazing and new to me.
Normally, I would have dug my heels in deep, rolled up my sleeves, put on my boxing gloves and argued back with this associate. Instead I took a deep breath and realized it wasn’t worth it. My morning began on a good note and I wasn’t going to let anyone rain on my parade of happiness. Besides—just looking at the files that Bellmont and his team put together put a smile on my face. I decided to show my boss the work. She loved it!
The Dale Carnegie principle I used in this story are from How to Stop Worrying and Start Living:
Never try to get even with your enemies.
Do not imitate others.
From How to Win Friends and Influence People:
Principle 10. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
I am a stubborn individual who will argue a point just out of principle. But today I reminded myself that the end result would be frustration and my associate would still think I was wrong and I would still think he was wrong. Time and energy would be wasted. So I backed off, showed the finished project to my boss who really does matter—and continued merrily on with my day. And I’m thinking of making lemonade from Harper’s words. Maybe I should enroll in a course or two on graphic design.
Remember, there are individuals in your workplace, home, school, etc that will never sincerely share in your happiness. Be aware of them, be respectful of them and their perspectives and don’t let them squash the happiness out of your life. When you take this approach you’ll control your happiness and you’ll continue your day in a productive, constructive manner.
Housekeeping / Notes:
Thank you for reading my blog. You, my readers, motivate me to give you my best. Just don’t ask me to Photoshop anything. Ha.