365 Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles
Day 13. April 7, 2011
This week was a challenge at home. I have had to vacuum my kitchen dining area every single night.
You see, I have quite a collection of houseplants by a bay window in the dining room. These plants have been with me for as long as I’ve had my home. Sometimes I forget to water my plants but they faithfully hang on for dear life until I remember to give them something to drink. I like them because it reminds me of being in a greenhouse.
But this week, my entire tile floor has a new, ‘peppered’ look. These little specks of ‘pepper’ are gnats. I’m not talking one, two, or twenty. It’s as if someone took a pepper mill and dusted my entire floor. It’s a despicable, horrifying sight. I cautiously enter my home every night wondering if my floor will be completely black.
I’ve been coping with this problem as patiently as I can. There was a time I would have decided to remove all houseplants and never permit another plant in my home again for the rest of my life. But not this time.
I wasn’t sure what the source of the problem was. Was it one plant? All the plants? It hardly seems right to get rid of all my plants.
So I decided to get all the facts. What was baffling was that none of the gnats were alive—and they were only on the tile floor.
Last night I did some reading on the subject and tried some poisonous concoctions on the plants.
I was eager to see the results this morning. UGH. No, this time these audacious creatures were alive and well all over the tile floor—particularly around one particular potted plant. I examined the plant and the soil was moving.
This plant has now been relegated to the great outdoors and I’m carefully examining the health of the rest of the plants. So far they seem ok.
Did I really apply Dale Carnegie principles in this instance? Absolutely.
From How to Stop Worrying and Start Living:
Get all the facts.
How to face trouble—
What is the problem? What are the causes of the problem? What are the possible solutions? What is the best possible solution?
Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth and refuse to give it more.
I didn’t enjoy the gnats one bit but I also didn’t want them to occupy my mind all day and night. In order to solve the problem I needed to behave rationally and gather the facts and then take action. Long term it wouldn’t do any good developing an unhealthy fear of houseplants! Plantphobia? Botanophobia? No. Not me.
So remember, when you are facing a challenge, keep your composure, gather the facts then take action. You’ll find this approach more effective than making rash decisions or going into panic mode.